75 Days to GoMay 24, 2008
The wedding is approaching quickly and by the time most of you see this post, we will be at the 75 day point in the countdown. There seems to be so much to do, and yet so much has been done already. So let’s just review what has been done in the past few weeks.
- Wine kits were purchased to make the favors. We have 12 gallons of wine fermenting to give to our guests.
- Labels have been printed for the wine bottles.
- Vows have been selected, including a ring ceremony, invocation, benediction and a few other features unique to our wedding.
- We have agreed on the wording of the invitation.
- The invitations have been printed.
- A deposit has been mailed to the DJ.
- Unique, personal stamps for the invitations have been purchased.
- Plans for the cake have been discussed with the baker, silk flowers for between the layers have been selected.
- The guest list is being finalized and addresses for those people have been acquired.
- Scott and I have had a discussion about our “first dance”. Do we need lessons? Can we watch a youtube instructional video and do this ourselves? I don’t want to get out there and waddle back and forth like so many couples. We’re gay! We’ve got to do this right and do it big!
- Discussion with the musicians is ongoing. I knew this part would be tough. Being a musician, I have so many ideas of what I like and making a decision has been difficult. My friends who are singing and playing are no help as they assure me that they will do whatever I ask them to do.
It’s exciting, and nerve-wracking, and wonderful to plan a wedding. It’s amazing to be so in love that we feel compelled to get married. It’s also disheartening that the marriage won’t be legal. In many ways, it doesn’t matter that the government won’t recognize this marriage. When we say our vows, make our commitment to each other in front of friends and family, we will be married. That marriage will be as strong, as valid as any other marriage; it just won’t be legally recognized here in Pennsylvania.
I suppose that I should warn all of the straight married couples now, Guard Your Marriage! As of August 9th, 2008 Steve and Scott will be married; your straight marriage is in danger. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself arguing more with your spouse. Your husband may call to say he’s “working late” at the office; your wife may be especially vague about her weekend visit to her sister’s house. Check your cell phone bill carefully and note any unfamiliar numbers and the time of the calls. These are all signs that your marriage is crumbling and it’s most likely caused by the gay couple in your town who decided to get married.