Gay-Bashed! (?) Part 2December 3, 2008
While there was nothing violent about the last night’s incident, I can’t help but feel violated in some way. It’s clear that the perpetrators intended to intimidate us in some way, even if they lacked the intelligence to figure out that a couple of gay men, living open lives, with a rainbow garden flag out front, would be happy to receive some gay porn magazines. Did they think we would feel shame? Did they think we would be angry? We’re not girly-men, so we’re certainly not going to run away and cry!
Still, that feeling of violation, that sense of being threatened remains. There was no obvious threat, but the message seems to be “we don’t like your kind here, and we’re willing to do something about it.” The strange thing is that we don’t get that message from our neighbors, nor do we hear it from the many people we interact with in this small community.
So, what to do with that little bit of trepidation that causes me to inspect the house or cars for vandalism on a regular basis? TAKE IT BACK! That’s what I decided to do! Racial groups take back the slurs that burned their ears for so long, minorities take the jokes and stereotypes and serve them up with humor for each other to enjoy. Please! When they’re making fun of a flaming queen, gay men swish better than any straight man ever could.
I took back the violation that occurred last night, and served it up with some chutzpah!